It's amazing how easy attractive people have it. They swim like sharks in a sea of shallow fish. Sadness setting in again. (I know, not the place... I'm sorry.)
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12 Dec 2011 1:06PM
Anyone can become attractive. You just need to eat right and hit the fucking gym.
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12 Dec 2011 8:09PM
Ha - fat chance! You can be tidy, clean and fit, but that does not help you to be attractive.
Look at the success of the scruffy bastard, who goes out without even taking a shower or shave. Unkempt and smelly, he still scores hot chicks, while we unattractive (not gross, just plain) guys get to fail to hook up with anything, time after time!
I feel your sadness!
(There will be many guys on here who recognise this, even if they don't admit it.
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12 Dec 2011 8:35PM
Not feeling sorry for myself but yeah agreed. Don't worry, being a total douche is not in every ones genes.
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12 Dec 2011 8:39PM
It's true. Being physically attractive has little to do with how much ass you get. It all has to do with understanding the female psyche and exploiting it to your advantage. I don't even make any attempt to score with women who aren't my wife, but I've had smoking hot girls falling all over each other to get at me for over 20 years. I'm not that great looking and my dick is nothing to write home about. You've either got that intangible thing that makes you desirable or you don't.
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12 Dec 2011 11:38PM
I wonder how many girls read these comments and laughed..
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13 Dec 2011 8:01AM
(OP here) Thanks for the comments, everyone.
I wish it were a matter of hitting the gym. I'm not overweight (no offense to anyone who is). I'm the type of guy who a woman would fall completely "in love" with based on who I really am. I write and talk with complete, startling honesty, so I know it's "me" she's liking, with absolutely no games or pretending to try to appeal to her. Then the reality hits home of meeting in person. I'd have to try 20x that of someone who's naturally "beautiful" to be wanted. Confidence is sexy? Sure. But it's not enough.
I'm just venting. I'm wondering what it must be like to be craved, you know? What it must be like to be truly desired, every inch, her wanting to inhale me. Magical. I'm not in a constant state of feeling sorry. It's easy to get depressed though from time to time.
Make the most out of what you've got, right? Yeah...
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13 Dec 2011 11:16AM
That "intangible thing" that the poster above mentions is confidence. I'm a pretty average looking girl, but I'm intelligent, articulate, considerate and charming (and I obviously have a freaky side). I know what matters, I know (and like) who I am, and I've never had a problem getting just about any man I set my sights on. That's not arrogance... like I said, I'm pretty average in the looks department, but I have a lot to offer, and I know it.
So here's a woman's advice: when you start thinking and acting like you deserve good things, you'll get them. It doesn't work all of the time... but enough of the time to make life awesome.
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13 Dec 2011 12:36PM
I really appreciate your thoughts. I think it's safe to say that it's easier for a woman to "set her sights" on *any* guy and get him, if you're just referring to sex. Admittedly, I want true, endless love. Freaky? Hell yes! But never any betrayal, only a commitment to truth, for better and worse...
You should know, so-called average women are exquisitely beautiful. They're far more beautiful to me than the types of women most guys clamor for. Every part of you is surely interesting, unique, and sexy. Yeah, it only matters if, like you say, it goes along with intelligence and compassion, but I digress.
