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Just go out and and have an affair with her sister.

or better sue her since its reacting again

Just be a man and tell her to be honest with you. Since you already know the truth you can call her out of she lies to you. You don't need to be in a relationship with someone you can't trust. See of she comes clean, and if she doesn't then it's on her.

Inject her with aids while she's asleep, make her get tested, then when she comes back infected kick her ass out for cheating and endangering your health. No court in the world would give that lying cheating cunt alimony.

Confront her but keep your cool. There's another thread in here about some guy's wife that cheated on him with two landscaping guys and he kind of blew it. He got drunk and confronted her telling her he had some hidden cameras set up. You already have proof so I would just confront her in a calm way and tell her to explain to you everything. Then it's up to you, although i could not trust a girl like that. You will always have that doubt and suspicion when she's not around.

If you guys weren't a couple, then it was just dating. She was working the field as some women do, but settled on you. This all happened before she got serious with you, and you have to remember... SHE CHOSE YOU. Now, her having unprotected sex was a dumb-ass thing to do. But, everyone makes mistakes. Her having unprotected sex with him then you was a dumb-ass thing to do. But, if you really love this woman, you'll forgive her. Things worked out. I would recommend getting an STD test, though, b/c as you said a UTI in guys is usually caused by a bacterial STD ... or it could be a prostate infection. If you guys do anal or oral it can increase the chances of weird bacteria getting into your prostate. Guys very rarely get a UTI... more common to get a prostate infection. If you have a hard time getting it up ... then it's a prostate infection.

For the record, I don't think it's really a man or woman thing to lie or keep things secret...both sexes do it. I've had my fair share. One gf I started dating decided to tell me that she was still married to her ex. I was ok with it, though, b/c the guy wasn't living with her, she kicked him out, and within a week she had filed a divorce.

My current partner was prone to UTI's, and I was getting a lot of prostate infections an UTI symptoms when we were dating. I walked out on her one day, b/c I was just so feverish and felt miserable, I couldn't stand being around anyone. I told her I couldn't see her any more, b/c every time we have sex it seems I get a prostate infection. I'm prone to them, though. If I jerk off with my saliva, or use my saliva as a lube on a woman, I almost always get a prostate infection. So, I know bacteria from various parts of the body can just not be very compatible. But, her and I both decided to go get tested for STD's at planned parenthood. Day before...she tells me that while she broke up with her ex, her and he got together one more time before she started seeing me, and that was right after she had an STD test. So, while she thought she was STD-free...she wasn't certain for sure if he may have had something. This sort of upset me. I mean, before I go into every relationship, I get an STD test, and I expect my partner to get one, too. And, when I'm serious with a woman, I expect her to get on birth control so we can have unprotected sex. I'm just too old and desensitized to have an orgasm using condoms now. Well, she got on birth control, but this other situation threw me for a loop. We get tested, and we both seemed to come back clean. But, the doctor gave us an antibiotic just to be safe. It seemed to clear up whatever was going back-n-forth between us. It was weird that we tested clean, but were having issues. Since we got off the antibiotics, we've been doing well. She hasn't had any more UTI's, and my prostate's been pretty good.

So, on the one hand, there are sometimes bacterias that an STD test don't catch which can cause havoc with a guy's plumbing. And on the other hand...there's a lot of folks that aren't very forthcoming with info. If you can work things out, then it's good. But, if you feel betrayed so bad, then you need to discuss this with your wife. However, it's not exactly a good conversation to start with "hey, I was snooping through your emails, and..."

First of all, on the medical front- UTIs are virtully indistinguishable, or oftentimes associated with, from other conditions as benign as balanitis or simple abrasion to as serious as recurrent herpes or aids/hiv. You could simply have some pH imbalance. Solely focused on what you have described, I would not be overly concerned. I think a syphilis test would be appropriate given your wife's sexual history, but medically speaking it would be hard to convict someone based solely on your symptoms.

Sounds like she gave you the clap, breh... If you were just dating, then you only have a right to be pissed that she gave you something, unless you distinctly talked about getting serious and it was. I'd confront her and probably shake the fuck out of that scummy whore. What kind of fucking doctor is she to do something stupid like that? I hope she's just a vet, or something, otherwise her practice is gonna go down, like she did on that diseased cocks.

OP here. I plan to get a full workup. I just have to find somewhere outside of town to go. Problem being smallish town and all the medical people tend to know each other and word spreads about everything remotely scandalous. Just ask the teacher that shoved 3 batteries up her ass during playtime and couldn't get them out. Small towns you can forget about confidentiality.

As to the just dating true we were just dating but we've known each other for a month and have had the discussions of expectations and exclusivity. We had discussed past partners and she gave me hell over some of my past because I had been with women she deemed lower class. Never mind that I had always been safe with the exception of my first, which was also her first. I know it was still a stupid thing to do but young and dumb and all that. I can honestly say that I have been in relationships with every sexual partner and have never had a one night stand or participated any any other risky behavior.

So no I'm not as pure as snow but I had the right to expect she was not dating or fucking or for that matter anything else with anyone else and that she was safe. She told me point blank that she had only been with her ex ever and that she knew for sure that she was clean due to regular tests at work. I knew I was safe because she requested I have a full work up and I had a clean bill of health.

She fucked this guy the day before our first time together of course the difference is I wore a condom. She had a "conference" to go to and then the next day she planned to come stay the weekend at my place. So she planned the whole thing out and somehow rationalized it in her head.

The biggest problem I have is the betrayal of trust and I mean not just the lies. Everyone lies well at least everyone I've ever met, but to be concerned even if just slightly that you could have been exposed to something and then tell me your safe and that its ok to forgo the protection since we are in a committed relationship blah blah blah! Even if the UTI was something benign it is really about the fact she could do that to me. I just don't know if I can ever get over that.

The knowledge that she's a doctor and understands better than most of us the consequences of her actions and knew about this guys past. It just makes me go WTF! What was she thinking when she fucked him and then again when she fucked me! Two really fucked up decisions that I just can't come to grips with.

It does help tremendously to just get this off my chest. If everything comes back clean then all the better. I plan to wait for the results before I talk to her about it. Thus giving me longer to calm down and be able to hopefully talk about it with a level head.

I know she gets tested regularly for HIV and Hepatitis at work. Also she is tested anytime there's any kind of incidents in the OR. So I know she is clean of HIV and Hepatitis and with all likely-hood I am as well by default. She has at least been upfront enough to always tell me about incidents at work and till the results are known we behave accordingly. Its one of the risks that we had talked about in the beginning. Hell she even told me about a case at work where a guy had kept secret being HIV+ for several years after marrying the woman she was pre-oping. She only found out about it when she got the news she was HIV+ when she got pregnant. My wife was all disgusted by this man that could knowingly infect his wife and potentially his own kid as well.

I try and rationalize all of this and it just makes me go WTF! Hell she could of very easily told me that there was a potential exposure at work and we needed to wait for the all clear. At least then it would of only been her cheating. Rather than in what in her mind must of been potentially putting my life at risk.

I've been going back through my emails with her in the beginning and remembering all the conversations we'd had. Remembering all the feelings and emotions and trying to put into context with what I know now and it just hurts....