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08 Jun 2012 12:56PM
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I confess I may have ruined a friendship because of the bad habits I developed from coming to this site. I post shit anon, like this, and sometimes I am like a cold glass of water to the face in the form of a reality check. Sure, you might get the glass smashed in your face too, but this is to get rid of the illusion too.

My friend blogged about pushing people away hoping that if they notice when she stops talking to her they'll make more of an effort with her.

Being used to commenting under the cloak of anonymity, I commented that she pulled that shit a lot whether or not she even realizes it. I asked her how she expects to maintain relationships when she can't even maintain friendships. I told her that acknowledging the problem just isn't enough, that she has to do something about it before she ends up alone.

She pushed away one best friend and is doing it to me. I love her dearly but there's only so much I can take. I didn't tell her that if she kept it up, I was going to have to cut her out of my life for good. I didn't tell her anything to indicate what she was doing to me. I left out any details pertaining to me, and it just FELT like an anonymous post. I submitted it, and saw my name next to it.

I panicked and deleted it but she had already seen it. Fuck. Should I feel bad like this?

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08 Jun 2012 1:18PM

been there buddy

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08 Jun 2012 1:36PM

So ? you told her the truth ! When you best friends you can say that to her ! if she is offended she is not really a best friend.

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08 Jun 2012 4:05PM

bullshit no one needs to hear the truth

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08 Jun 2012 2:07PM

I would follow it up with some of what you left out though-- the personal stuff, your feelings, and that you love her dearly. Some say there are no accidents. Maybe you wanted to help her confront this face to face.

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08 Jun 2012 3:41PM

you don't talk shit to your best friend OP so don't be a prick to her

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08 Jun 2012 5:28PM

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09 Jun 2012 1:06AM

If you're afraid of telling her the truth, then you were never really her friend to begin with...As for the person saying that no one needs to know the truth: you're an moron. The US was founded on lies and deceit, and look where that got the country. Forteen trillion $$$ in the hole and has the world as an enemy...

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09 Jun 2012 1:33AM

SEX

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09 Jun 2012 3:10AM

no need to feel bad op you did the right thing by telling her the truth just don't expect her to hug and kiss and thank you right away because most truth hurts
just give her time to process what you did say
and then talk to her and discuss it

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09 Jun 2012 3:40PM

Tell it to Dear Abby. We want to hear how you and your friend swaped dog cum while babysitting your preachers kids.

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09 Jun 2012 8:43PM

You wanna lead this post now dude? Ya know since OP ain't talkin'

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14 Jun 2012 7:46PM

OP here, she said it hurt when she read it, but we spent a few days clearing the air. They're not 100% better but we've been working on a few issues.

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14 Jun 2012 8:07PM

People always claim to value honesty, but when you give it to 'em they act like you're some terrible asshole. I don't give a fuck; I'll continue being honest no matter who I alienate in the process. I can handle valid criticisms being directed at me. If other people can't, they're welcome to only interact with people who blow bullshit loads of smoke up their ass.

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15 Jun 2012 12:05PM

She wasn't expecting it. I'm one of the only people in her life who actually steps up and tells her the truth, even if it's accidental or I don't always have the balls to do it. I'm making an effort to maintain that level of honesty because she matters that much to me.

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14 Jun 2012 8:13PM

Any pics?

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15 Jun 2012 12:05PM

Of what? Honesty?

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14 Jun 2012 8:25PM

you did ok. You have to tell the truth to stubborn, selfish, self absorbed people like that if you want to see any kind of change within them, and if she can't take it, then fuck her, as in forget about her. You were being honest and sincere with a friend, and that's one of the rights that should be respected under the subject of Friendship, and if two people are going to enter into that agreement, that they are going to be friends, then they must accept all those rights and privileges afforded by such a relationship, and be ready to GIVE and RECEIVE. So, that being said, if she's going to be pissed by receiving all that honesty, and it doesn't seem like she ever really gave much into her friendships, then she's not a good friend, and there's really no big loss to you. But as far as you're concerned, you kept up your part of the deal. You were a good friend. you tried to guide her right.

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15 Jun 2012 12:10PM

OP here again: Even though the truth stung, she said it was silly for me to hold back. She even told me that I was the reason she posted what she did. Not that I was the cause of it, but that she sees how honest I can be and she decided to step up to the task as well. Yeah, I felt like an asshole for holding back.

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18 Jun 2012 3:48PM

OP here. I had a good weekend with her. Things are getting back to a more normal state but with better communication. Now we just have to make sure it stays that way

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